I supposedly violated community standards when I posted a reaction to the end of a friend’s rapist’s military trial. I say supposedly because I don’t know how exactly I violated the community standards. The only message I got from facebook was this thing I had to click on when I relogged in to my account after they autologged me out.
Anyway! He’s a pilot at the local air base. She’s a civilian school teacher in another town. They knew each other. He offered her a ride to his house and a place because she wasn’t living in town yet, had been drinking, and her friends had her keys and wallet. They’d known each other for a while and she felt safe taking the offer of crashing on a friend’s couch. She accepted the ride. She fell asleep on the couch. She woke up to him sexually assaulting her. She was drunk. She *also* said No. They were not in a relationship where he could assume drunken advances would be met with happiness.
That was 16 months ago. The military trial ended at 2:30 am Saturday with a not guilty verdict. The way military trials work, 4 of the 5 people on the jury would have needed to vote guilty and 2 of the 5 on the jury were also pilots. I don’t think she had a chance in hell of a fair trial. Two of the jurors cried when the verdict was read and apparently you could tell they didn’t think it was the right verdict.
So at 3:30 that morning, I drove to her house despite being sick all week and her friends/family rallied around her. We helped keep her calm. We made plans. We lamented that this was another example of the military justice system needing an overhaul. Then I went home and recouped and made a button with his image, his name, and the word “rapist.” It was removed from Facebook and my account is restricted for 12 hours. I can talk to people privately and change my profile photo, that’s it. No status updates, no photos, no commenting at other people, no “liking” anything. Nothing.
I know it wasn’t one of my friends who complained about the photo because the type of friends I have would just argue with me directly, they wouldn’t report me to facebook. The survivor had her account suspended a couple hours before I did. She also had her account suspended today as well.
So right now my friends and family are a wee bit worried for me. They think I should not say anything at all so I don’t get in to trouble. I’m not sure I *can* get in to trouble. He was accused of rape and I’m talking about it. I’m allowed to do that. Facts are he *is* an accused rapist. Regardless, I’m already in contact with a lawyer or two so that if he does decide to sue me for defamation of character or anything else, a lawyer will already know exactly what I’ve done. We’ll see if I end up needing them. If I do, I can guarantee you that I’ll post about every step of the process including any attempts to silence me again.
I think anyone who knows me also knows that I have a difficult time keeping my mouth shut when I think injustice is being done. I’m simply not built that way. So. I say things and I will keep saying things because the way the trial was handled was abhorrent.